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You are in the middle of a life story, and something inside is trying to reach you.
What you say YES to and what you say NO to shapes your life. These are powerful words that help set boundaries. Unfortunately, many women struggle with setting healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are the psychological and physical spaces you learn to establish around you. These boundaries help differentiate you from others and define your sense of self and identity.
The decisions you make, the people you let in, and the boundaries you set all play a decisive role in your life. And yet, for many women setting healthy boundaries can be a real challenge.
Boundary development is one of the essential aspects of childhood and maturation to adulthood. The boundary of our skin separates us from our environment. The same emotional skin needs proper development to thrive and become autonomous individuals.
Developing that emotional skin starts when we are toddlers, sometimes called the terrible twos; we start separating ourselves from our environment, specifically the mothering figure. Before this stage, we’re in a unified experience with the mother, with no defined boundaries between the mother and child.
But as the child grows up, a natural separation and a journey for independence occur between the child and the mothering figure and environment, leading to the higher development of autonomy. We continue setting these boundaries throughout our lives, and they help us deal with incoming stress.
When we’re alarmed by stress, our boundaries help us contain, reduce, and balance our emotions and reactions.
The boundaries you set help you go through turbulence and stress more efficiently.
Listening to your boundaries in relationships can bring up emotions for you, and we tend to give up often or bend our boundaries out of fear of other people’s feelings and reactions. They might not like your No; they might become angry or sad.
As we grow, we continue to set boundaries throughout our lives, but we create stress and chaos if we don’t have clear boundaries.
Without healthy boundaries, we can quickly become overwhelmed by stress, fear, and anxiety. Your sense of worth can feel diminished.
I talk to women who constantly worry about saying no to their children, husbands, friends, or colleagues because they don’t want to disappoint or hurt anyone. I always remind them that no one is served by crossing their boundaries, although it might look like they’re doing everyone a service.
Women with weak or lack of limits can find themselves in unhealthy relationships and attract partners that look for these traits in women.
Our kids become stronger when we uphold boundaries with kindness and understanding rather than fostering codependency or insecurity.
Women in the workforce are afraid to be portrayed as overly negative when they set boundaries. I teach women leadership skills to communicate effectively about their boundaries. I also teach women to develop a vocabulary that signifies their boundaries.
You have an internal compass called intuition, a gut feeling that tells you what a Yes and a No is. But sometimes, this guiding mechanism can become fuzzy and blurry. I work with women to help them communicate effectively and develop a vocabulary that signifies their boundaries. I help women develop their sense of boundaries and autonomy.
Autonomy is the ability of an individual to make decisions and take actions based on their beliefs, values, and desires. Often, I speak to women in their 30s, 40s, or 50s and, at times, even older who have difficulty recognizing their needs and what truly supports them. They suffer from the lack of structure and blame themselves for being weak or calling themselves spineless.
They’re caught in unconscious patterns of habitual denial tendencies, ignoring their body and heart cues, numbing themselves, arguing with themselves, and contemplating to avoid setting boundaries.
A lack of healthy boundaries impacts your sense of possibility and freedom.
Women with healthy boundaries develop a sense of purpose and establish goals that align with their values, leading to higher levels of fulfillment.
I teach this essential life skill of boundary setting to women ready to rediscover their inner voices and clarify their boundaries.
We will work to help you separate your emotions and experiences from your boundaries and develop a stronger sense of self, leading to higher self-esteem and confidence. You’ll also establish healthy relationships and attract partners and friends who respect your needs and desires.
With my support, you’ll feel empowered and achieve personal growth and freedom. Let’s start developing the boundaries you need for your well-being.
Together, we will address limiting beliefs, overcome negative self-images, conquer imposter syndrome, heal past traumas, and build a strong sense of self-worth
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